When I Grow Up

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One of the most asked questions of childhood is: what do you want to be when you grow up? As a kid in elementary school, this is easy. It’s mostly: “I want to be a teacher!” or “I want to be a popstar!” Then in middle school, it starts to become more of a money-making dream job and everyone starts saying, “I want to be a doctor!” or “I want to be a lawyer!” That was definitely me. But all of a sudden I get to high school, and I have no idea what I want to be. How is it so simple as a kid, but so difficult in the future?

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
–E.E. Cummings

When we’re young, we’re unaware of what really happens in the world. We’re sometimes even unaware of what we really like. As we get older, we become a lot more aware of our surroundings and the world around us. It’s not just a decision anymore. We have to take into consideration of financial situations as well as our own well-being. I mean, this is our future we’re talking about, right? Everyone says to do what you love. It’s not just that anymore. It’s more like: Do what you love as long as you can afford it. Well… That definitely limits the choices, doesn’t it?

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The first choice that most people think of is in the medical field. When they actually get into universities and begin their journey as a doctor, it’s way too difficult. Majority drop out. However, those that stay become successful. How do they endure such a stressful education? It’s most likely because they love what they’re doing. They love learning about the medical subject. Those that are just in it for the money aren’t passionate about it. So what other choices do they have?

School can become stressful. (Photo by anna gutermuth on Flickr.)

School can become stressful.
(Photo by anna gutermuth on Flickr.)

Difficult decisions are required in choosing a career. These are some helpful questions to ask yourself in figuring out career choices:

  • What do I like?

For me I like playing golf, reading, eating, watching movies, and taking care of animals, etc.

  • What jobs would fit those?

Golf-professional golf player, Reading-writing books/reviewing them, Eating-food critic, Watching movies-movie critic, Animals-veterinarian, etc.

  • Which job is the most realistic?
  • Will I be financially stable with this job?
  • Will I be happy?

Even though we’re grown up, we still remember our childish features and sometimes they have to emerge for us to be happier.

I think it’s okay to be anything we want to be as long as we’re happy with our lives. There are probably millionaires out there who are living unhappy lives. Sure, they’re financially secure, but do they have time for family or friends?

Some people get so caught up with work that they forget who they really are. This can’t happen. It’s important to be successful in life, but it’s also important to remember who you are.

So what do I want to be when I grow up?

Well, the most important thing to be is:

Myself

by Edgar Guest

I have to live with myself, and so,

I want to be fit for myself to know;

I want to be able as days go by,

Always to look myself straight in the eye;

I don’t want to stand with the setting sun

And hate myself for the things I’ve done.

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf

A lot of secrets about myself,

And fool myself as I come and go

Into thinking that nobody else will know

The kind of man I really am;

I don’t want to dress myself up in sham.

I want to deserve all men’s respect;

But here in this struggle for fame and pelf,

I want to be able to like myself.

I don’t want to think as I come and go

That I’m for bluster and bluff and empty show.

I never can hide myself from me,

I see what others may never see,

I know what others may never know,

I never can fool myself — and so,

Whatever happens, I want to be

Self-respecting and conscience free.

~Tam(:

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Justice vs. Revenge

Revenge is a kind of wild justice… –Francis Bacon

Do you ever get an interesting shower thought or think of something controversial when you’re trying to sleep? I was having a hard time sleeping, so I had an instinct to just start… thinking. Not the kind of mechanical thinking that you do when solving math problems, but the kind of observant thinking that’s philosophical in a way.

A questioned popped up in my head at night. That question was: What is the difference between justice and revenge?

The definition of justice is to avenge something morally right. The definition of revenge is to avenge something morally wrong. But can’t justice and revenge be mistaken for each other?

Scales of Justice taken by Michael Grimes (citizensheep) on Flickr

Scales of Justice taken by Michael Grimes (citizensheep) on Flickr

I mean, wouldn’t a villain believe that their actions are just? For example, the character Helena Bertinelli from the TV show, The Arrow, wanted to take revenge on her father when he ordered her boyfriend to be killed. Helena believed that she was a hero by getting justice and avenging her boyfriend by trying to kill her father. Meanwhile, the audience would think that she was a crazy, vengeful villain. A hero’s actions could be taken as revenge too. For example, Spider-Man became a superhero so he could find out who killed his Uncle Ben and avenge his death. The audience would believe that he was getting justice, but was he really? From a different perspective, he wants revenge, doesn’t he? When you think about it, justice and revenge are difficult to differentiate.

I guess the real difference would be who their actions are for. The difference is the result. Justice is done for the good of society, the good of humanity. It’s just a bonus when it benefits the hero, too. Let’s take the Flash as an example. His father was wrongly imprisoned for killing his mother, so the Flash becomes a superhero to bring justice to his father. By taking action, he defeats those who are terrorizing the city, and saves innocent people. Along the way, he discovers who truly killed his mother, and he works to free his wrongly-accused father. This is justice. The Flash is bringing justice to his family and his city. His city’s welfare is safe and he benefits from these deeds too.

The Flash being awesome (as always).

The Flash being awesome (as always).

Revenge, however, is done for selfish reasons. It doesn’t benefit the whole of society, only the person who is taking action. But does revenge even benefit the person imposing it? The guilt and the shame of carrying out a vengeful deed is stuck with a person forever. They feel regret once their revenge has taken place, and this feeling can never be taken back. For instance, Loki, the villain from the Norse mythology, had always been treated badly for being born originally in Jotunheim, the world of the Giants. He is mistreated by the other gods and takes action against the most favorited God, Balder. He killed him to avenge his feelings and position in Asgard. No one benefited from this, because Loki acted selfishly.

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It’s helpful to know what the difference is before carrying out actions. Ask yourself:

  1. Am I being biased with my decision?
  2. Is it really worth taking action? (What will I gain from this?)
  3. How will this affect others and myself?
  4. Will it be reversible if something goes wrong?
  5. What will I lose if it’s irrevocable?

These are important questions to think about before doing something that’s irreversible.

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Thinking Man taken by m01229 on Flickr

However, any remorseful decisions should be taken as learning experiences.

Queen Latifah says:

I made decisions that I regret, and I took them as learning experiences… I’m human, not perfect, like anybody else.

Just remember that you control your life! Make choices that would help others and yourself.

~Tam(:

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A Star in the Midst of Helicopters

Do you ever feel alone in this world? Like there’s nothing and no one there except you? I know how it feels. I think everyone has experienced loneliness in this world. Most people would say loneliness is a bad thing, but it can be a good thing too.

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Our surroundings nowadays indicate that being out by yourself in public is… strange. When you go outside, all you see are people with some kind of friend, relative, or even pet with them. For example, no one would even think to go shopping at a mall or go to Disneyland by themselves. I guess it’s not a typical thing to do where we are. But is it really strange to do things by yourself? Going on walks, shopping, eating at a restaurant, even going to the bathroom (girls ;])–is it abnormal to do these alone?

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Picture by John Fowler http://bit.ly/flickrofjohnfowler

Some may think that it’s abnormal, because no one else does it. If no one else does it, it shouldn’t be done.

THIS IS NOT HOW WE SHOULD THINK.

Our self-consciousness is affecting us too much. When we pick out outfits, we wonder how other people will judge us. When we get haircuts, we wonder how others will think of it. It seems as though others’ opinions are more important than our own. This shouldn’t be the case.

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. — Dr. Seuss

There’s so much influence from others and self-worry for ourselves that sometimes we need a break from all of it. Sometimes we need to be alone.

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  • Being alone = free-thinking. There are no distractions, no limits, no end to creative imagination when you’re alone. It allows you to express your artistic thoughts and abilities. You can discover how imaginative you can be or how great your potential is.

 Susan Cain talks about how introverts can be just as extraordinary as outgoing people and how solitude is a crucial part in achieving greatness.

  • Being alone = learning. Being by yourself gives the opportunity for you to try new things, such as a new instrument or any outdoor activity. Sometimes hiking, exploring, or watching a movie by yourself is enjoyable, because you don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations. You can go by your own preferences and enjoy it.
  • Being alone = reflecting. If you’re having problems with anything or anyone in your life, it’s helpful to be alone sometimes to think clearly on everything that’s happening, and if necessary, determine if there are any changes you need to make. You can take alone-time to sort out problems and understand yourself better.

Of course, I’m not saying that we should be isolated from our friends, family, or civilization. I’m saying that sometimes it’s good to take time off and be by yourself, where you’re free from self-consciousness.

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The other day I was feeling overwhelmed from school, club activities, extracurriculars, and scheduling problems. Because of this, I decided to go on a walk. By myself. I went to the store, a coffee shop, and the park by myself. Everything felt so much better. Stress was relieved, I could actually think clearly, and I didn’t feel judged. I could be myself.

Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. –Oscar Wilde

Whether you may think being alone is good or bad, that’s up to you. I just want you to know that you should be you. Think for yourself, believe in yourself, and most importantly, be yourself!

~Tam(:

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“Stop worrying about the world ending today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia.” -Charles M. Schulz

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Stand Up

If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.-H.G. Wells

I’ve been thinking about what to post lately until I saw a trailer for He Named Me Malala. Malala Yousafzai, a young Pakistani teenager, is almost killed for speaking what’s on her mind. Later, she becomes an activist for children’s rights and women’s education. As the youngest person ever to be a Nobel Peace Prize recipient, Malala is an inspirational figure to people around the world.

I always wondered how people were able to do that. They bravely stand up against others to speak what’s on their minds. They change the world, they create, and they inspire . I always fear of the consequences that would come from that. I constantly think about what could go wrong, what could happen to me, what could happen to others, and in the end, nothing changes, nothing is improved because I’m too scared to speak up. How do they do it? How are they so unafraid? How do they change the world for the greater good?

I realize now that they do it because they don’t think of the consequences. Without worrying about what will happen later, those who defy authority for a greater cause are successful.

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The trick is to not be afraid of the end. Live in the moment and speak up right now because it may be the only chance you’ve got.

A man is but the product of his thoughts; what he thinks, he becomes. –Mahatma Gandhi

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Of course, none of this is easy to accomplish. So let’s try to take baby steps. I’ve come up with five steps on how to help with this.

  1. Be confident.
    • Don’t hesitate on your words because then you’ll never know if you’ll get another chance to say them. Recognize your good talents and qualities and believe in yourself.
  2. Respect others and yourself.
    • Some people may not agree with what you believe in, and that’s okay. Respect their opinions. This doesn’t mean that your beliefs are incorrect. Just continue to respect what you and other people believe in.
  3. Be assertive.
    • Speak up, but don’t be too passive or aggressive. If you do it that way, no one will listen or support you. Be assertive  and passionate for what you believe in so that others will know that what you say should be taken seriously.
  4. View yourself as the hero, and not the victim.
    • Don’t think of yourself as helpless or hopeless. There is never something you cannot do. Start thinking of yourself as the lionheart, the hero. Be brave and determined when you speak.
  5. ilymeSet short and long term goals.
    • Of course, you can’t stop world hunger or global warming in a day. It takes time. Start by setting short goals that are achievable. For example, in school projects, if you don’t agree with a concept someone suggested, tell them what you want to do, and come up with a compromise. Now I’m not saying that you should start a rebellion against schoolwork or anything, (because that would end badly) but just know that you have a powerful voice. Later on, start setting long term goals once you’ve become more familiar with the process.

Just remember that ordinary people have done great things. Look at Gandhi or Susan B. Anthony! They were ordinary people who changed the lives of millions. That could be any of us one day!

I don’t know how this will end, but I hope that you were inspired reading this! The world needs these kinds of people. The world needs help. The world needs you. Stand up for what you believe in. Be fearless, be confident, be you.

~Tam(:

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Life is a dream for the wise, a game for the fool, a comedy for the rich, a tragedy for the poor.” –Sholem Aleichem

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Introductions

Hi friends!

This is my first blog post! I guess this is pretty exciting. Right now I’m trying to get used to everything on this website but hopefully it turns out well. I felt that I should post something that explains what my goals are for this blog first before posting something random. But anyways, the main topic of my blog is going to be about life, morals, anything I feel that should be shared to lighten up your day and giving advice on how to have an accomplished life! :]

I’ll try to be as active as possible to make this blog continuous, so thank you for reading!

~Tam(:

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